Dear Abby,

I'm writing to you with a growing concern about my adult son. Since he began dating his current girlfriend, I've noticed a significant shift in his lifestyle, and frankly, I'm worried. He used to be incredibly health-conscious, regularly exercising, eating well, and pursuing hobbies that kept him active and engaged. Now, he seems to be letting himself go. His diet has worsened, his exercise routine has vanished, and he's spending a lot of time at his girlfriend's place, which, to put it mildly, is quite messy and chaotic.

My concern isn't just about his physical well-being; it's about the overall trajectory of his life. He’s always been a driven and ambitious individual, but I see a spark fading. I've tried to subtly mention my observations, but he dismisses my concerns, saying she makes him happy. While I want him to be happy, I'm struggling to reconcile his current state with the responsible, thriving young man he once was.

Should I say more? Is it my place to intervene in his relationship, even if I believe it's negatively impacting his life? I don't want to alienate him, but I also can’t stand by and watch him potentially derail his future. Any advice you can offer would be greatly appreciated.

Sincerely,

Worried Mom